The One with the Date I Forgot to Write About...

So last Wednesday I had a date that provided less of a story even though it actually happened.  There were a few good things that came out of the date, but overall, there really wasn't much to write about...which is probably why I forgot to write about it altogether.  The first positive aspect to come out of the date was that he chose the place and it was one I had not been to.  I also loved it so much that I have a date planned there for this week as well.  As I've mentioned before, in the search for a good date, I've been left with those that are bad and those that are merely "meh".  This one fell into the latter category.

I got a sweet parking spot across the street and we ended up walking up to the place at the same time and meeting outside before walking in.  While I keep an open mind during all of my dates I have yet to be proven wrong from my initial opinion regarding our connection.  I didn't think the date would be a disaster, but I wasn't expecting sparks to fly by any means.  We found seats at the bar and I have to say that I had two different beers while I was there and they were both fantastic!  There was a great selection of beers on tap and for that I am excited to return this week.  Anyway, the guy was nice enough, but it was another case of an older man feeling so much older than me.  He has an established career and has worked very hard to get to where he is, but there was nothing fun about him, really.  We were able to keep a conversation going for the most part, but there were definitely moments where we were left sitting and searching for questions to re-start the conversation.  So, overall, there's really not a whole lot to report on this date.  I do have to say, though, that towards the end, we got into a very nice conversation regarding the nature of dating and discussed how important that initial connection is.  We both agreed that that particular connection is either there or it isn't and especially at this stage in life, if its not, then it is best to just move on.  It was almost as though we were agreeing that the connection we needed was not there without actually pointing it out in this specific instance.  So, after we were done our drinks, we walked out, said our goodbyes, and literally went our separate ways.

I have mentioned before how much I am learning from this experiment and I have to say that I am definitely surprised at how quickly the first impression is made and how accurate it is to the outcome of the date.  I typically form an opinion in the first 10 seconds and even while keeping an open mind--as I mentioned before--this opinion usually does not change over the course of the date.  I have two-possibly three-dates lined for this week and for at least one of them I do have hopes for a good bit of bantering.  I really hope I'm right...